Interview with Katie Farchione, a stay at
home mother of six and a fashionista.
By: Hannah Farchione
Q: How would you sum up your fashion?
A: “Contemporary forward.”
Q: What are you favorite clothing stores
and why?
A: “Kanuhs because they have stylish
clothes at a great price point and different selections that you will find in
the mainstream stores and Nordstrom.”
Q: What is your motto of how women should
dress?
A: “Age appropriate with a little flair
and look good feel good.”
Q: Why do you feel that looking nice is
important?
A: “Because I think it affects your
mental health. And make good impressions and put your best foot forward and you
feel better about yourself and perform better.”
Q: What do you have to say to the women
who don’t look nice?
A: “You don’t have to be thin or pretty
or have a lot of money to look nice. You don’t need very many clothes just a
few great basics with some accessories to put yourself together and you can
look nice everyday even on a budget and also have you looked in the mirror? Why
would you walk around looking bad when you can walk around looking good? And
you should care about how you look.”
Q: Have you ever been made fun of or
looked at poorly for how you dress?
A: “Yes. When I was in law school I was
wearing the preppy look and people made fun of me. Even though it was in style
at the time.”
Q: Have you felt any pressure to look a
certain way?
A: “No not really. I just feel pressure
to look nice when I go out with your Dad, but not to look a certain way. “
Q: What drives you to look nice?
A: “Because it makes me feel better about
myself and I always want to put my best foot forward. Why not look nice? I
always do my hair, I always have on makeup, I always want to look my best even
in the backyard.”
Q: What are your limitations on looking
nice?
A: “Budget, figure, and age. There are
things you just can’t wear because of your age.”
Q: How does the way you dress affect your
mothering?
A: “Well I would have to say dressing
nicely makes me a better mother. Feeling good about myself helps me to take
care of my children better.”
Q: Your friend Diana Hyland, who had
cancer, what was her outlook on her fashion during her time before she passed
away from cancer?
A: “She always just got up and got
dressed. She never went anywhere without her make up on, not even the gym.
Because her motto was look good feel good.”
Q: Do you think looking good and feeling
good helped her deal with the cancer and helped her be a better mother?
A: “Yes I know it did. We talked about
it.”
“Looking
good and feeling good,” an idea that not many women address. What it breaks
down into is that when you dress nicely, the emotional and psychological affect
it has on you is great. Just putting makeup on and wearing nice clothing can
change your whole outlook on life. Thus, making you a better mother. This is
supported by a study done by Sharma, U. and Black, P. What they found is that
there is a correlation between looking good and the emotions you feel. Thus, to
be the best mother you can be, you must be in a great emotional state, due to
the fact that when in the healthy emotional state, you can be a fully devoted
mother. For if not in a place where you can you’re your best, your work as a
mother will suffer.
Connors in her article states,
“I cannot be a mother without being myself; I
will not be myself if I sacrifice myself entirely on the altar of motherhood. I
must, in other words, consider my own interests alongside those of my children
in any decision that bears upon my motherhood if I am to be the kind of mother
that I want to be – the happy mother, the fulfilled mother – if I am to be the
only kind of mother that I can be.” So if taking care of your own interests
means dressing nicely, then one should do so. Children do come first, but
sometimes you cannot take care of them if you have not taken care of yourself.
However, there are limitations to looking good.
A lot of mothers claim they don’t have the money or the time to look nice. But,
as stated by Katie Farchione, it is all about the basics. You don’t need to
have money to look good, only “a few basics”. So, the excuse that one does not
have the money to do so seems void. All you need are some simple items that you
can put together to look nice. Nothing expensive. Just basic. Also, dressing
your figure and age are also crucial. One does not want to dress non-age
appropriate or against one’s figure. You don’t want to be 45 years old and wear
a mini skirt and a cropped top. That would just look bad.
In the interview I ask about Diana
Hyland, a devoted mother and Katie Farchione’s friend, who died from cancer
always looked nice. This is because she is the epitome of a strong fashion
forward mother. In the face of something as terrible as cancer, she managed to
keep her outlook optimistic just by the shear act of putting on makeup. In
doing so, even with her cancer, the fact that she was optimistic and always happy
helped her work as a mother. She was a strong woman and looking good helped her
do so. Even though she was about to die from cancer. She even discussed with
Mrs. Farchione about how she believed that looking good helped her deal with
her battle better.
A scholarly article on cancer patients, written by Karen
Kendrick, supports this idea. She argues that cancer patients will have an
easier time coping with their issues if they look nice. What her conclusions
were that looking nice does actually affect the way that women with cancer deal
with it. So if you look nice and can deal with your cancer, then your work as a
mother will benefit.
So what does this all boil down to? It
boils down to the idea that if you look nice, you will feel better, and by
feeling better you can be a better mother. I mean, even a terminally ill cancer
patient still looked amazing, which in turn made her a better mother than most.
So what is the moral of the story? Well, it’s what we have been talking about.
There truly is a truth behind looking good helping you feel good. So mothers
out there, take a few moments for yourself and get some clothes. You don’t need
anything expensive, just a few basics. Remember to dress your age and your
figure. And most of all just work it and look good.
Sources:
Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas, Labor of Love
Kendrick, Karen. “Normalizing Female
Cancer Patients: Look Good, Feel Better And Other Image Programs.” Disability & Society. 23.3 /92008) Psychology and Behavioral Sciences
Collection.
Sharma, U., & Black, P. “Look Good,
Feel Better: Beauty Therapy as Emotional Labor”. Sociology 35(4).